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Determining what you want will waste a part of your time. No, that is not accurate. To be precise, it means spending, not wasting, because it is very correct and necessary to think about what you want.

The real waste of time is "doing to others what you want others to do to you", being angry all day long with those who think differently from you, being angry all day long when others don't listen to your advice, being angry all day long because others do not behave the same way as you, all day long. Blame others for their lack of quality, inability to do things, carelessness, repaying evil with kindness, all kinds of displeasure, all kinds of indignation, all kinds of contradictions, and all kinds of conflicts.

Choice is always more important than change. When you meet someone who disagrees with you or someone who has a very different outlook on life and values, don't try to change the other person. The correct approach is to change people immediately and choose people who have similar ideas to your own. The same is true for falling in love, and the same is true for co-workers. If you find that there are fundamental differences in the early stages of getting along, you must make a decision immediately. If you can't do this, then you will suffer the consequences and turn into enemies. How many couples just make do with each other for the rest of their lives? Yes, how many of them have been arguing for a lifetime, and they have clearly failed completely. In the end, they still deceive themselves and tell their children, "Your dad and I have been arguing for a lifetime, isn't it a lifetime?" ’

Is it right to argue for the rest of your life? You’re right, even though I’ve lived a lifetime, I’ve also been quarreling all my life. I’ve been eating sweet potato buns where I’ve been bickering and arguing all my life. I’ve never eaten white steamed buns where husband and wife are harmonious and like each other. And then I turned around and told my children that marriage is about eating sweet potatoes. Wotou, it is no exaggeration to say that most unfortunate children are ruined at the hands of their parents.

It is actually human instinct to choose to get along with like-minded people and stay away from people who make you feel unhappy. Everyone likes to be with those who can make them feel happy. He Shen made Qianlong feel comfortable, so Qianlong liked it he. The ugly man can satisfy the beauty's vanity of being pampered, so the beauty finally marries the ugly man. A not-so-pretty woman can rely on a handsome guy everywhere, so the handsome guy eventually marries her. Subordinates who are good at getting things done can make their leaders feel comfortable, so they are promoted by their leaders.

It's easy to take shortcuts, just make the people around you feel comfortable, but the prerequisite is that your self-esteem should not be too strong.

If you want to live with dignity, there is only one way to go, and that is to be strong enough. As long as you are strong enough, there is no need to please anyone, others will take the initiative to please you.

During this period, Wu Zhongyuan would take a nap almost every seven days. He seemed to have his eyes closed at night, but he did not stop practicing Qi. When he advanced to Shangyuan, he already had a rough idea of ​​how much Qi was needed to advance. If he wanted to advance to Yuyuan again, he would at least One more month to go.

While practicing Qi, he is also enriching the character of two Yuanyings. One is as graceful as the sea, and the other is as powerful as prison. The essence of giving kindness to others is reward, and the essence of giving power to others is punishment. Neither rewards nor punishments are absolutely fair. Absolute justice can only be achieved when they are compatible with each other. Just like Yin Yang and Tai Chi, only half of the black fish and half of the white fish can last forever.

The world advocates the golden mean and pursues stability and peace, but Wu Zhongyuan does not think so. He prefers the Taoist combination of movement and stillness. Silence is like a virgin moisturizing things silently, movement is like a rabbit breaking away from thunder and thunder. It is right to endure the calm for a while and take a step back to open up the sky. , but it is only half right, and the other half is that it is unbearable and there is no need to bear it anymore. If the tiger never shows its power, others will always regard it as a sick cat.

In the past half month, Wu Zhongyuan has been verifying a question through observation, that is, what do people want to live like? The result of the observation is that most people do not know what they want, and they are just living, living out of inertia. Most people don’t have a clear and long-term goal of what they want to live like.

In the second half of the month, Wu Zhongyuan began to verify another question through observation, that is, what is the meaning of life. This is actually not a question anymore, but a philosophical proposition that has risen to the extreme height. He actually already has the answer to this proposition.

Then there are three things to do not be wronged, one is not to be wronged to heaven and earth, the second is not to be wronged to others, and the third is not to be wronged to oneself.

When people live between heaven and earth, they should respect the heaven and the ancestors and be kind to heaven and earth. Being kind to heaven and earth is a broad term. To put it bluntly, it means not to damage the environment. Not everyone can cause serious damage to the environment, and not everyone is a big polluter. Try not to damage the environment as much as you can, and don't abuse various drugs and additives to destroy the ecological balance just to make money.

It’s easy to understand that you don’t let others down, don’t let down anyone who is kind to you, that’s all. But it’s difficult to do it in detail, because the kindness of others to you doesn’t happen in one day; In all the life trajectories we have lived, most of the time we cannot repay it now and can only remember it in our hearts. However, as time goes by, we will gradually forget the kindness that others have shown us, or because of When something has turned against the other person, it is easy to let him down. When we want to do something to a person, we must recall all the things that person has done to us, and every part of kindness should be offset by every part of resentment. After the grievances are settled, you can decide how to treat the other party.

In the same way, after dinner and before going to sleep, you can take the time to recall the people you know and recall the many details of your interactions with them to determine whether you should do something for them.

The last thing is not to betray yourself. On the premise of not betraying the world or others, you must not betray yourself. People’s life is not to endure humiliation and burden, to suffer hardships. You can have a little bit of wine, sex and wealth. When parents, wives and children eat meat at home , I can go out to have a drink with my friends and have sex. When my family has enough food and clothing, I can smoke good cigarettes and buy a good car. I don’t need to be like a masochist to live a leisurely life. , but live frugally all day long. As long as you lose your job, your wife and children will not go hungry, but your living standard will be lowered, there is no need to pretend to be a grandson in the workplace. Many times people say that life is tiring and life is not as good as that of a dog. In fact, this is an exaggeration. If you really overturn the desk of the unreasonable boss, or give a big mouth to the leader who touches your butt, most people will not starve to death. It’s just that you choose to endure humiliation and bear the burden in order to live a better life, buy more expensive bags, live in a bigger house, and drive a better car. This is not worthy of sympathy.

In a word, you should not treat yourself too badly as a person, otherwise you will lack the motivation to fight, suffer grievances for a lifetime, and even die without being able to close your eyes.

Words are long, words are short. One and a half months passed by in a blink of an eye. Spring and summer turned, and mosquitoes began to appear in the service area. Wu Zhongyuan was successfully promoted to Yuyuan.

After being promoted to Yu Yuan, Wu Zhongyuan left the service area, but he was not in a hurry to transform into Yuanying. There were two reasons. First, the personalities of the two Yuanyings were not full enough, and he still needed to observe and accumulate. Second, he found that he could use his own enlightenment. With the gold slips and Xuanwen supporting each other, you can also sprint to a higher level...?