Origin

It can be seen that Big Nose did not want to take away the box of cigarettes because she was criticized by Wu Zhongyuan, but in the end she still took the box of cigarettes. It makes sense that people are poor but have short ambitions. Here she almost had no choice but to take away the box of cigarettes. To luxury goods like cigarettes.

Since the three prisoners in the female prison were all brought here together, after Big Nose went out, Wu Zhongyuan called out the name of another female prisoner.

This is a woman in her mid-thirties, her name is A'duo. Her nickname is not A'duo, but the name on her ID card is A'duo. Many ethnic minority names have this characteristic. This person's appearance compares to her actual appearance. She was much older, intentionally causing death, and the victim was his husband's sweetheart, who was two years older than her.

A'duo is a bit like Mrs. Xianglin. Her nerves are a little abnormal. Her eyes are straight. After sitting down, she can't wait to talk about her grievances. In fact, her experience is not strange. She and her husband were childhood sweethearts and came to work from the countryside together. Later, Her husband got rich and had a sweetheart, but he ignored her in every possible way. She kept swallowing her anger and humiliating herself, but finally she couldn't bear it anymore and stabbed the woman with a knife after losing control of her emotions.

A'duo was nagging about how good she was to her husband, how much she had been wronged, and how that hateful woman took her husband away. She didn't think she was at fault and always thought she was the victim.

After entering this kind of place, under strict control and legal education, the vast majority of prisoners will realize their mistakes, and there are very few people like A Duo who refuse to admit their mistakes.

To be fair, A'duo's experience did make Wu Zhongyuan sympathize with her. A'duo and her husband also shared adversity. She was seriously ill in the early years, and her husband braved the wind and snow to carry her along dozens of miles of mountain roads to send her to her hometown. Hospital. When she first got married and separated, she incurred a debt of more than 8,000 yuan. She lived frugally and cooked two kinds of food for every meal.

Later, the two of them entered the city, and their lives gradually got better, but their relationship became weaker and weaker. A'duo put all the blame on the woman, thinking that the woman had robbed her husband.

A'duo told more than just these two things. It can be seen that the relationship between A'duo and her husband was indeed very good in the early days. It could be said that a man has a love and a concubine. However, things are fickle and the good relationship did not last until the end. It turned sour in the middle. .

Before this, Wu Zhongyuan had been in contact with the prison area managers and heard some relevant information introduced by them. What they had in hand was the data obtained through comprehensive analysis. The analysis found that people who had been living in the city or in the countryside were relatively less likely to commit crimes. There are relatively few prisoners, and rural people who have gone to the city and city people who have returned to poverty for some reason account for a relatively large proportion of the prisoners. The root cause is the confusion and confusion after suddenly having wealth, as well as the desolation and desolation of suddenly losing wealth. Lost.

A'duo's situation belongs to the former. She was obedient to her husband, but her humiliation did not win her husband's change of heart. What she got in exchange was only getting worse.

Since A'duo was eager to talk, the conversation between the two consisted of A'duo narrating and Wu Zhongyuan listening. Wu Zhongyuan rarely interrupted when A'duo was narrating. In fact, A'duo's situation was similar to that of the glasses man who donated a kidney to support his girlfriend's education. They are somewhat similar to each other, except that Aduo is a girl and Spectacles is a boy.

Wu Zhongyuan advocates equality between men and women, but the equality he advocates is not equality between men and women in an absolute sense. In his view, equality between men and women is based on the strength, wealth, and knowledge of the party with the upper hand. Give half of the status to your partner, instead of men and women fighting over who has the final say in the family.

The reason why he didn't criticize A'duo was because A'duo was a woman and a weak person. She had no initiative and could only bear it passively.

But he couldn't praise A'duo for doing the right thing, because A'duo really did something wrong. She made three mistakes. First, she shouldn't blame the woman and attack her, because men physically take advantage of Take the initiative, no matter how a woman seduce a man, whether she succeeds or not depends on the man, so when it comes to issues between men and women, men must bear most of the responsibility.

The second is that she should not try to retain someone who wants to leave. The maintenance of a relationship depends on both men and women. As long as one of them has the idea of ​​leaving, it means that they have no nostalgia for the relationship, and any form of retention by the other party will be useless.

The last mistake A'duo made was that A'duo paid too much attention to his inner self and ignored his external appearance. There were photos of A'duo when he was in prison and photos of the victim in the case file. The victim was two years older than A'duo, but maintained She is better and looks prettier than Aduo, but because of years of hard work and lack of attention to her clothes, Aduo, who is in her thirties, behaves like a woman in her fifties.

It is a common characteristic of all people to judge people by their appearance, especially men, who pay more attention to a woman's appearance. There are many advantages of women attracting men, but the first and largest one is appearance.

A woman must dress herself up as carefully as possible when conditions permit. She cannot be harsh on herself for the sake of being thrifty and running the family, turning herself into a slovenly yellow-faced woman prematurely. If she does not realize this, she will end up in a very serious situation. It can be sad.

No matter how difficult a man's life is, he should not be harsh on his woman's cosmetics and skin care products. Husband and wife are husband and wife, not brothers, not comrades in arms, but opposite sexes who accompany each other and grow old together. If women age faster than men, men will There is a great possibility of becoming Chen Shimei.

Wu Zhongyuan said very little during the whole process and only asked three questions. The first one is, will your man still give you money after he has an affair? A'duo answered yes, she has never been short of money, but she understands that it is not easy for her husband to make money and is reluctant to use it. Unlike that vixen who always spends her husband's money lavishly, it is really shameless.

The second question Wu Zhongyuan asked was, would he still come to see you now? A'duo also answered in the affirmative, but her husband complained that she made the matter bigger, making him embarrassed to see others, and she was also worried that her husband would meet other women outside after being sentenced to so many years.

The last question is, has he filed for divorce from you? A'duo answered no, but he never went home and took the vixen around to buy things for the vixen.

Wu Zhongyuan did not criticize A Duo, nor did he point out where A Duo's problem lies. First of all, he is a man, and no matter how objective and fair he is, he is still a man. It is impossible to 100% understand a woman's psychology. Any criticism is subjective. Furthermore, A'duo has little education and cannot look at problems comprehensively and objectively. If she is made to realize that her husband's affair is directly related to her own slovenliness, she will doubt her feelings and life, and will deny herself in a general way. various advantages.

But it's not okay to not express any opinions at all, because A'duo never thinks that she has done anything wrong. If she doesn't plead guilty, her sentence cannot be reduced. This is a deadlock. She still has to try to make her realize her mistake and try to get out as soon as possible.

The guards must have provided relevant education and enlightenment to A'duo after she came in, but A'duo did not realize her mistake. This shows that normal enlightenment is ineffective for A'duo, and she has to take the wrong approach.

After thinking about it, Wu Zhongyuan walked to A'duo and whispered a few words into his ear. A'duo suddenly realized what he said and stood up and bowed to Wu Zhongyuan repeatedly, "Thank you, leader. Thank you, leader. If they ask me in the future, I will just say I am." Realize my mistake so I can get out sooner.”

Wu Zhongyuan smiled, grabbed a handful of candies from the table nearby and put it into her hand, "Take it, eat one when you feel bad. You still have children, they are still waiting for you outside."

A'duo held the candy and shed tears of gratitude.

Wu Zhongyuan pressed the button on the table, and the prison guards came in to take the person.

Watching A Duo leave, Wu Zhongyuan let out a deep breath. The relationship between men and women is the most complicated, but it is also the simplest. Men should do what men should do, and women should do what women should do. Only in this way can we happiness. If one party does not do well, no matter how well the other party does, it will be equal to zero, because feelings are multiplication rather than addition.

Fang Yi poked his head in from outside, "There's still one left, who will be transferred next? I'll pick up the person first."

Wu Zhongyuan thought for a while, shook his head and said, "I won't mention it anymore. We will leave after this last discussion."

"What's wrong?" Fang Yi was a little surprised. After coordinating so many departments, Wu Zhongyuan only asked six people.

"Almost." Wu Zhongyuan said casually. The prisoners here are all prisoners who have been detained and corrected after making mistakes. Human nature is not allowed to be fully displayed. If you want to truly understand a person, you have to see what he will do in his natural state... …